Rabu, 08 Februari 2012

5 Things You Fear Most in Teens

Parents may wonder why children do not talk about his problems. Typically, children in their teens feel uncomfortable to talk about it with adults. They felt adults would not understand what they are experiencing. Adolescents also fear of being angry, criticized, or even punished for the problems being experienced.

Vanessa Van Petten, author of parenting book You're Grounded! whose mission is to improve parent-child relationship is sharing her experience. Every time Vanessa teenage apprentice applicants interviewed, he asked them to answer two questions: What is most worrying you? What are the most difficult part of your life??..


Here are five answers obtained Vanessa useful to you, the parents, to ensure children and adolescents to avoid regardless of the stress.


1. Social Interaction
The teens often need to chat with friends. This sometimes makes them obsessed with the relationship with friends, both in the real world and in cyberspace. Social interaction, braided friendship and friendship is very important for teens. They worry whether they are popular, what they are quite interesting and fun, and what they alluded to his friend.

Tip: Make sure your child has a close friend who can really provide the support and interaction, not just 1000 friends on Facebook that no real form. Tell him the difference between school friends, friends in cyberspace, and friend. Add that he should cultivate good friendships.

2. School
Although the teens stressed about homework, exams, and teachers at the school, the most stressful part is doing the best he could do, take the right lessons, and develop the skills or talent.

Tip: Encourage the child to pay attention to academic values ​​together with you. He will be a student like? What is the minimum value that must be achieved to realize the future that he wants? Help her make that clear objectives and constraints, as well as the Lead directing steps to be taken.

3. Future
The teens are usually quite hesitant about the future. They do not understand what would be their future and even some teenagers are not sure how to prepare it.

Tip: Guidance is needed during unstable. Pressures felt by teenagers may be reduced if he has someone who can motivate successful that he was interested in the field. If your child has not been able to make choices, find someone who can lead, such as aunts, uncles, cousins, and of course you as a parent.


4. Finance
Economic crisis that struck the teen has raised awareness of their family's financial situation, which is certainly related to its future. Many teens are trying to find odd jobs to support themselves. In addition, with the development of materialistic films (such as Gossip Girl), young women fear could offset the pattern of life as his friends.

Tip: Begin to teach your child how to manage money well. This will reduce the burden on his mind. Then, for the purchase, make sure he was going out of control. If you give a credit card, select the berlimit, so that will not happen overspending.


5. Romance
Many ways in which teens to express their anxiety they experienced love. Some wondered what it was like and whether they will feel it. Some teens will question the love of their parents when they are punished. While others will demand more love.

Tip: Parents always think that their children know how much they loved him. However, it is not always true. Parents not only have to say she loved her son, but also have to clarify whether the meaning of love or affection. Tell also that loving boyfriend does not always involve physical contact. Such knowledge will help them feel safe and feel cared for..


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